So, it works now. Weird.

I swapped out for a radio without the antenna and replaced the capacitor just in case (the leads were getting wavy). The little antenna worked, but very intermittently, there were many misses. So, I put the radio with the antenna back to try some of the "fixes" for them like the ugly fix and powering externally. Well, I put it back and it works now. I moved the antenna back where it was sitting and still worked. Restarted a few times, still works. Not sure what was going on but I'm guessing it was either a bad capacitor or I had it mis-wired somehow as I completely redid the wiring when I swapped them.

Thanks very much for your time. I know I was annoying as hell, I appreciate you sticking with me :)

Nevermind, I figured it out (sort of). I deleted the serial port from device manager and then checked for hardware updates which reinstalled it. It then worked just fine for one iteration, but the serial monitor showed BinarySwitchSleepSensor output instead of gateway output. And then stopped working. I deleted it again, reinstalled the port, and immediately uploaded the gateway sketch back to it. Now it works great. My guess is that the binary sketch somehow messed up the serial comm when on the Nano? Not sure, but that fixed it. I must have forgotten to switch the port # when I was reuploading the binary sketch to my node and accidentely uploaded it to the gateway port.