@TEStevens This is two separate nodes, correct? As I understand what you described: you have a 4-relay node and you have a node with four buttons and four lights, are these LEDs on the node or switched lights?
If this is a separate node from the relays, I would use S_SCENE_CONTROLLER for the buttons and S_LIGHT for the LEDs and use logic on your controller to send V_LIGHT commands to both the LEDs on the button node and to the relay node when a scene is switched 'on' or 'off' from any of your proposed "button controllers".