Thanks again @Dwalt! I deleted the device and re-added it and then the same settings page for serial port configuration finally had some info I can edit! Just posting this so others might learn from it.

Now to try to re-include the smart outlet...Wish me luck.

@benalsop ok never mind!! After trying the inclusion process about 8 more times it finally found the relay! Now both are included and it all works, whew, a little buggy but I'll take it as long as it continues to function...