@zboblamont After a lot of headscratching I solved part of this puzzle and feeling a little stupid. Nothing to do with Library conflicts, both Wire and softwareSerial work as they are supposed to, the level converter works perfectly, it was a combination of sketch issues and the manner in which sleep was invoked on both Master and Slave, as well as a problem ultrasonic board.
1 - The DYP-ME007Y I could only ever get to read on a Russian developed sketch using softwareSerial. Although I got the reading once, the Slave was locked in an endless loop in the background, never going to sleep or giving the battery reading. By doing the ADC battery measurement first at least I got both readings, but with the Slave running endlessly even with the ultrasonic board shut down, it was killing the batteries.
So I gave up on that one and switched to the second tank which uses time of flight calculation, readily incorporated as a function. This time I incorporated LED flashes so I could see what WAS and was NOT happening.
2 - The JSN-SR04T-2.0 Slave went to almost immediately per Gammon's sleeping Slave routine, would waken when prodded, but would not return a battery reading. The problem lay in Gammon's preparations prior to sleeping the Slave, where he turns off the ADC, but it remained off when awake. Commenting out the ADC shutdown at least solved that issue for now, at least the Slave gave the required readings and went to sleep, but... it never started again.
3 - The Master was going to sleep but never wakened on the onboard RTC alarm set to Int1. Switching to a straight Sleep period did not work either, until it finally it dawned that the Wire service may be interfering. Only when Wire was shut down and re-invoked after wakeup did both Master and Slave sleep and awaken as intended.
Left it running overnight, and it has been consistently reporting every 30 minutes, so will look again today at getting the DS3231M to work properly on the Master and read how to restart the ADC on the Slave.
Frustrating as a relative amateur, but lessons learned.
If there is no function to interrogate the DYP ultrasonic, may just order another device from China and hope it proves simpler, cheap enough even if it takes a month...