Does this help:
http://forum.mysensors.org/topic/748/manual-assigning-node-id-s-for-network-with-repeaters
I agree with you that the serial messages are not perfectly documented, but realise that this site has been made (as far as I know) by a bunch of people that share their 'love' for home automation.....
boozz
@tlustoch
The node is a very simple one. So I never considered boot loaders, as the node would not need changing sketches during it's lifetime. I have boot loading functionality on my other designs, this one is a minimal board. Any extra chip would beat the purpose of the word "minimal".
It's a dumb node for a reason